As a visitor from outside there is not necessarily any ‘fair.’ It may be that ‘fair’ must be put aside to allow for the experience. Whenever you react to something as ‘wrong’ (and this is totally normal) take a moment to consider whether those around you feel the same way about it.
As an outsider you are often not expected to do as others do. Being polite and not offending goes without saying, but there is a freedom to being different – an American archaeologist in Tibet can get up and dance and the Chinese officials are temporarily unable to work out how to react, as he is outside of the normal system of things. This is not a recommendation to do what he did, but to feel ok about being foreign, most people will not expect you to seamlessly slip into life as a local.